A Note on Must-Have Photo Lists & Trusting the Process

I wanted to share something important that plays a big role in how your photos ultimately turn out.

While it’s completely okay to have a few meaningful requests, I don’t recommend handing your photographer a long checklist of must-have photos on the wedding day.

Here’s why:

When a photographer is focused on checking off a list, it takes time and attention away from what’s actually happening — the real, unscripted moments. The hugs that weren’t planned. The laughter that happens in between. The quiet pauses you don’t even realize are happening in real time.

Those moments are the reason you hired a wedding photographer whose work you love.

You trusted my eye, my instincts, and my ability to tell your story honestly. Creative freedom allows me to anticipate moments, work fluidly, and document your day as it unfolds — not just recreate a shot list.

Instead of a long list, I recommend sharing a small handful of non-traditional, deeply personal must-haves, such as:

• A photo with a grandparent or loved one who may not be on the dance floor all night

• A sentimental detail (a locket, heirloom ring, handwritten note, memorial charm, etc.)

• A moment that feels emotionally important to you (like a private hug with a parent or sibling)

• A specific dynamic you love (you + your college friends, cousins who grew up together, etc.)

• Any family situations I should be aware of to photograph with care

Traditional moments — ceremony, family portraits, first dances, cake cutting — are already built into my workflow. You never need to worry about those being missed.

By keeping requests intentional and minimal, you’re allowing space for creativity, authenticity, and presence — and that’s where the most meaningful images come from.

Trust the process. Trust the day. And most of all, trust that your story is being documented with care.